The struggle in liking someone is that it’s very, very hard to swallow the reality of how much you actually like them. Your emotions are untamed and you want to flawlessly execute everything you can for the person without over stepping your boundaries and becoming the overnight wifey. I mean, you are just dating.
We all know being cautious in any type of relationship could be the ultimate demise. Listening to your foolish heart can work against you in the end and cheat you of the opportunity to discover Mr. Right.
Relationships can grow at a fast pace, sometimes out of control. Relationships are made up of two people’s emotions, two people’s wants, and two people’s needs. Trying to manage and get on the same page isn’t always simple. However, if you continuously find yourself on different a page, that’s a clear indicator that it is time to close that chapter book and add it to the rest of your slightly used book collection.
Truth be told, you threw me for a loop. A huge deterrent for most relationships, even ones we’re fostering, is that we’ve developed a false sense of commitment to the person. Even though it’s hard to admit, and hard even for me to type, you have to be able to tell yourself, “we’re not in a relationship.” This person owes you nothing—another complicated branch of dating. If you just want to be coy and say, “oh we’re just friends,” and date, then do that—date. If you want to put the lockdown on, then do it. If truth be told, would you really get upset if you didn’t receive your daily “good morning” text, or he postponed y’all weekly Taco Tuesdays? Getting even and pulling back will only make things worse. As living, breathing, loving, capable humans, we are always entitled to feel we are owed something—must be in our blood. We have rights! I’m a person who likes consistency, doesn’t mean we’re in a committed relationship—just reliable. I never start anything I can’t finish and expect people to treat me the same. Now when it comes to commitment, I’m obliged to quickly change the subject. It’s our human nature to adapt to patterns, and we intuitively have a sixth sense when something, or someone, is off. But there is a difference in the meaning between consistency and commitment—might seem as thin as the line between love and hate.
If you like someone, there’s no reason in running from the fact. Trying to create a good balance to show that you’re interested is hard. Don’t bamboozle yourself into thinking that falling back is going to draw him into you more. A man wants to know you’re interested and engaged. Too much disconnection will only give him the opportunity to connect with someone else—no pun intended.
So you want to fall back? Be cautious, you just might miss out.
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