The Extra Ordinary Man vs. The Extraordinary Man is a concept that I developed that saved my marriage. Basically there are three types of GOOD men. I assume that there is no point in talking about bad men because everybody has either been one or had one. The three types of good men are Ordinary, Extra Ordinary and Extraordinary.The Ordinary Man will work hard and hold down a decent job. He will pay his tithes, bills, save and invest. He can cook, can clean and maintain the house. He will take care of the cars and the lawn. When the Ordinary Man becomes a father he will do his part. He will do all of the ordinary things that a husband would do.
The Extra Ordinary Man compares himself to other Ordinary men. He is not interested in doing or being Extraordinary. He is only interested in being better than her last guy. He is basically only doing a little bit more than the Ordinary Man because his woman asked him to. The Extra Ordinary Man is the guy that does the job of the Ordinary Man and then adds a little extra by paying all the bills and then thinking that money makes for a happy, successful relationship. “I pay all the bills, I don’t know why she is not happy.” How about the guy that says, “I am home every night,” as if being home every night counts for something. What’s funny about doing just a little bit extra, is that it is extra of the same. It’s not more, it’s extra. It’s not better, it’s just extra. You may hear an Extra Ordinary Man say, “I do my part,” but to be Extraordinary it is not about what you do, it’s about who you are. Too many men are focusing on what they are doing instead of developing who they are as a person.
I was an Extra Ordinary Man. To become an Extraordinary Man I had to develop my person. I had to become more man. The problem with being an Extra Ordinary Man in 2011 is that the 2011 Woman wants an Extraordinary Man, whether she is Extraordinary, Extra Ordinary or Ordinary. Seems unfair initially but after careful analysis of the structure of marriage a man must come to the realization that God left Adam in charge. Additional responsibility comes with being in charge. Additional sacrifice comes with being in charge. To be in charge means that you are charged with being Extraordinary.
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