If you want romance, intimacy and passion, activate your enthusiasm factor – your capacity for fun, humor and adventure.The first step: silence the negative self-talk that you are not good enough which in turn makes you view others as betraying you, ignoring you, or not loving you enough. The second step: turn on your genuine smile transmitting to all the people you encounter how happy you are to greet them. If you want to be irresistible, make the other person feel irresistible! It’s what you see in him or her that makes you special. Make the other person feel important and clever and it is you who will be perceived as clever and invaluable. Then you can mute that stern inner critic of yours.
Here are some ways to make room for romance:
* Feeling sad and lonely? Go where you feel welcomed: family members, friends, fellow volunteers or spinning class.
* You already know that when you wait impatiently for that proverbial bus, it takes forever. Similarly, don’t focus on finding love by giving yourself a deadline. Just go about your business – work and play – and there in that relaxed, surprised, frame of mind you will encounter love.
* Imagine yourself lucky and you will see the opportunity that unlucky people overlook.